I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?
Not at all. People who ask for help know when they need it and have the ability to reach out. Asking for help requires humility, courage and willingness. Sometimes it is about facing the fears that are holding you back in life. I ask you, how does any of that sound weak?
What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?
A mental health professional can help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself. Furthermore, therapy is completely confidential. You won’t have to worry about others “knowing your business.” Lastly, if your situation provokes a great deal of negative emotion and you’ve been confiding in a friend or family member, there is the risk that they too will be emotionally affected, or once you are feeling better, you could start avoiding that person so you aren’t reminded of this difficult time in your life.
Why shouldn’t I just take medication?
Medication alone cannot solve all issues. What medication does is treat the symptoms. Our work together is designed to explore the root of the issue, dig deep into your thoughts and behaviors and teach strategies that can help you accomplish your personal and/or relational goals.
Medication can be effective and is sometimes needed in conjunction with therapy.
How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?
Because each person has different issues and goals for therapy, therapy will be different depending on the individual. I tailor my therapeutic approach to your specific needs.
How long will it take?
Unfortunately, this is not possible to say in a general FAQs page. Everyone’s circumstances are unique to them and the length of time therapy can take to allow you to accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek therapy in the first place. Some people seek short-term therapy, others want and need something longer-term. Some people will benefit from a therapy group. In the first few sessions, together, we will come up with a plan to reach your goals, considering your time and resources.
I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?
I am so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions. Your active participation and dedication is crucial to your success. I like to “contract” with clients for a specific number of sessions and then re-evaluate. Attending sessions consistently, whether it’s once a week, or every two weeks, is important. Sporadic attendance at sessions, or only coming in when in crisis, is not as affective. The “work” you do outside of our sessions will really help you realize your goals.
My partner and I are having problems. Should we be in individual counseling or come together?
If you are concerned about your relationship, and you would both like to work with me, I will work with you together. If you have “individual issues” impacting your relationship that may require therapy, I will try to do that work within the context of the relationship therapy or refer you to one of my trusted colleagues, when necessary.